To cry it out or not?

[tanya]

To cry it out or not?
Timmy goes to sleep around 8:30 every night and wakes every night between 10:30 and11:00 every night.
From then on, he nurses every hour, sometimes every hour and a half. He is 23 lbs and 8 months old 9 months on the 26th. He eat solid food for us during the day, he is not cutting teeth, he is not sick, he just nurses all night.
Teaching the kids is getting really hard from lack of sleep from being up so much at night feeding Timmy. I feel he is just use to nursing at night and he does not “need” this time to nurse.
Do you think it would be mean to just stop nursing him at night? Think he will be ok after a little crying? I don’t like it when he is sad and crying it tears me up.
What would you do? Would you let him cry it out?

[chele]

My Timothy did the same thing. I brought him to bed and he nursed and I slept. He would wake me to turn over to the other side.

[smeservy]

I would let him cry it out, but that's because that's what I do with my kids. By the time they are 9 months old they are mostly waking out of habit anyway. If you can go somewhere you can't hear him, or turn on your ipod on your headphones or something, that will make it easier. With our first, my DH had to make me leave for a while because I couldn't take it. It will only take a few nights and IMO, you'll be glad you did it in the long run!!

[tanya]

What if he cries in the middle of the night?

[smeservy]

Same thing more or less. The hardest part is ignoring him and worrying about it waking the other kids. I always think it will wake them and it never does. Put your headphones on and give yourself a time limit. Like, I won't check to see if he's still crying for, say 15 minutes. The first night is the hardest and will take the longest. But my kids never cry for more than 30 minutes the first time. After that, it shortens significantly. They learn quickly. But if you cave once, they'll learn that all they have to do is be persistent and you'll come get them. You have to be dedicated if you really want to do it.

My Odessa is four months old. I don't let her cry it out at night yet, but during the day I'll put her down for a nap and turn of the monitor for 15 minutes to let her cry. She's usually asleep by the time I check on her. It's always easier if you can't hear them cry!

[florance]

It seems to me that this is not the problem of the child, but of the parents. The child constantly checks the boundaries of what is permitted and will achieve his goal with a cry. I would recommend ignoring this for a week. Take sedatives like this - purekana.com/collections/cbd-gummies/ It will help you keep your nerves.